The rest of our stuff came last week. Wave 3 of the attack, if you will. I mentioned before, that I didn’t miss too much of it. Now it is here. I’m trying to convince myself that this is a good thing. Or it will be. Once we get it put away. I think it will all fit. Progress has been slow because, you know, KIDS. And it feels like a shell game. I need to put X in here, but I can’t because Y is in there, and I can’t move it until I sort Z and get it moved. And so on and so forth.
My goal for this weekend is to at least get things out of Henry’s reach. I miss before when he wasn’t randomly walking up and handing me an iron. Or a flashlight. Or my box of Christmas cards.
Living with less stuff really wasn’t hard. I’d like to get back to that a little bit. But I’m having the same problem I was when I tried to purge before our move. Selecting the things you want to take is easy. Looking at all the things and eliminating them is hard. When I didn’t see this stuff, I really didn’t miss it. But now–even though I didn’t need it for almost two months–I look at things and think I should keep them. You know, just in case . . .
I asked James the other day if we are frugal. The Frugal Girl has a funny post up about how to How to be an obnoxious money saver. The comments are interesting. I don’t identify with a lot of these things, particularly noticing price changes of a few cents. I would never notice that. My general philosophy is that I can buy whatever I want at the grocery store because it is much cheaper than eating out. I mean, within reason, of course. I’m not buying all filet mignon, foie gras, and crab legs. But we don’t have a grocery budget.
I recognize that we are fortunate to be able to think this way. I know not everyone can. I know I may need to think that way some day. Besides the other reasons I mention here, I think this is one of the reasons I haven’t hired any cleaning help yet. We could afford help now. But I think I want to try on what would be like if we couldn’t. I don’t know what the next step is. If we opt to do something very different with a very different income stream, I’d like to know what it feels like. Is this a deal breaker, ladies?
One of my new friends here has asked a few times if we have been to the mall yet. Nope. Besides that whole driving thing, I’m just not that into it. The kids are not super fun in stores. And I know I want less stuff if I see less stuff.
Similarly, a new favorite blog is The Mom Edit. The writing makes me laugh. The pics are gorgeous. It does give me outfit ideas. But it also makes me want things. I find myself with 5 new tabs open after reading a post before I talk myself down that, no, I do not need another gray sweater.
In Clutterfree with Kids, Joshua Becker talks about working towards minimalism after spending a day cleaning out his garage. Let’s just say it was not the most fun day, and he wished he could have spent more of it with his son. It was a realization that your stuff owns you. You have to put it away. Clean it. Organize it. Take care of it. Right now I feel a little like the stuff is owning me. I need to be vigilant about eliminating the things that don’t find homes.
So, no, I don’t really think of myself as frugal. I don’t budget. I spend money on kindle books without hesitation. I’ll drop some money on a dinner out. But I’m working towards less stuff. And recognizing that putting myself in less opportunities to acquire stuff generally results in less stuff. I definitely don’t want to be holier-than-thou like the obnoxious money savers above. I do love stuff. Particularly gray sweaters. And gray pants. And gray purses. Yes, I have a problem. I think the goal should be stuff that works for you. Right now my stuff is not working for me. Time to recalibrate.
What’s your “stuff” strategy? Do you consider yourself frugal?